Dee Ann Miller has written two books that address the issues of collusion
in the faith community, in regard to abusive clergy. They are both in
The first, How Little We Knew, published
in 1993, is well-known in the survivor community. It is Miller's first-person
The second, The Truth about Malarkey,
published in 2000, is reality-based fiction. The composite characters
are based on many readers who had already responded to the first book,
thereby inspiring the novel.
You may order both books, for only $27.00 total. Price includes shipping
within the USA or SURFACE shipping outside the USA. Please contact
the author for air mail shipping arrangements outside the USA.
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||How Little We Knew
Collusion and Confusion with Sexual Misconduct
(a first-person horror story by Dee Miller)
Buy this book ALONE for $14.00 postage paid.
"Every health care professional and member
of the clergy needs to read this book. Those with little or
no experience with sexual abuse will find well-articulated insights
into the powerfully destructive ways abuse affects both the
victim and the community in which it takes place. For victims
of sexual abuse, it will provide strong consensual validation
that their responses are normal, that they aren't crazy, and
that there is help available." Judith Shelly, RN, MAR, Senior
Editor of Intervarsity's The Journal of Christian Nursing"
Other writers in the past decade have addressed such issues
as incest, violation and mistrust, even clergy abuse, but few
have acknowledged the magnitude of the systematic abuse addressed
here." from the forward by Dr. Bert Kae-Je', Diplomate AAPC,
Director of Education and Training, Pastoral Institute, Columbus,
What happens when a group of professional ministers suddenly
find themselves facing a sexual predator in their own midst?
They are forced to confront the illusions about safety in the
community of faith. This true story clearly illustrates the
common games of collusion and frequently gives us a glance at
the DIM Thinking which lies behind
The setting is unusual--deep in the heart of Africa,
where the Millers were serving as career missionaries. Yet the
dynamics will be all too familiar to any survivor or advocate
who has ever tried to expose sexual violence in a profession which
is expected to provide the model of healthy, moral living.
The story in How Little We Knew is
about the aftermath of the abuse of minors, as well as the blatant
assaults or molestation of adult co-workers, by a man who had
already spent a quarter of a century as a foreign missionary.
The author was one of the adult victims.
Just a footnote: Finding a sub-title
for the book was one of the most challenging tasks of writing
it. In 1993--the time of its publication (and in most circles
today), "sexual misconduct" is the popular term for what happens
when a professional in any way sexually exploits a person of lesser
power. "Sexual misconduct" is a legal term. In titling the book,
Dee finally settled on what she considered a minimizing term--"sexual
misconduct," hoping this would help it to be found by the appropriate
Throughout this web-site, you will
find "clergy sexual abuse." This term, it was felt, would be the
most common one used in searches. However, it is not the author's
preference. Despite the media's extensive use of the term "sexual
abuse" to refer to the abuse of both adults and children,
the public still seems to think of sexual abuse as something which
could only happen to children. The general public seems to find
the term ambiguous. Survivors often find it minimizing.If given
the opportunity to change the cover today, Dee would select the
term "sexual violence." This change is being supported by progressive
writers, such as Friedman and Boumil in their book, Betrayal
of Trust(Praeger, 1995). Miller believes it is the term most
appropriate in describing the wide array of violations perpetuated
by clergy, whether or not there is actual physical violence
FOR THE GREATEST VIOLATION OF CLERGY SEXUAL ABUSE AND
COLLUSION WITH IT IS THE VIOLATION OF THE SOUL!!!
||The Truth About Malarky
This book is now available from the author only, by cash only,
unless purchased in the above pkg. with How Little We Knew.
For more information, contact
It's been three years since Princeton graduate,
Dr. Mark Peterson, found himself booted out of a promising career
after blowing the whistle on a predecessor over sexual misconduct.
He's struggling, unsure if he even wants to go on with his profession,
when an unexpected phone call comes from a New York City screenwriter.
She wants to tell his story.
Sandy Ammons seems to know all about the Waco, Texas minister.
He's baffled, angry, and not the least bit appreciative of her
intrusion! Especially when she refuses to reveal her source of
As his next-door neighbor, ninety-two-year-old Grandma Cora
has a ringside seat to Peterson's personal conflicts. Both the
one that brought him to this point in his life and the latest
one that started with Ammon's phone call. Grandma's been beside
him, in his frustrations, for three years. And she's still listening
as he confides in her his fears, doubts, and ethical dilemmas,
in regard to going public.
In Grandma's thinking, she's writing this solely for her seven-year-old
great-grandson Davey, who will be reading it whenever his mama
decides he's old enough. Of course, she knows that she won't be
around at that time because, as she puts it, "this story is definitely
NOT for children!" yet she's convinced he needs to hear it, when
the time is right, even if Ammons never gets her wishes to see
it as a made-for-television movie.
So she tells all, with a good deal of satire, Texas colloquialism,
personal pride, and a no-nonsense approach. Ultimately, Peterson
gets assistance in discovering the mystery source, is forced to
re-examine his initial decision about the Ammon's proposal, and
finds himself feeling a lot more confident about things than he
has in years. So does Grandma Cora.