Dee's Blog
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Tue 04/08/2008
"Knowing" the Future
Topic: coping

On a soy commercial this morning, I caught a jewel of a thought.  One that I never want to forget:  "The only way to know what the future holds is to live through it."

Deep inside of me is a sense of hope that something good will come out of the rubble that we often see in this life.  I hope for things I literally cannot even visualize.  Sometimes a very elusive future, believing that somehow it may be better than I can imagine. 

Looking ahead is what keeps me focused on taking care of myself.  When I focus on the past, I find myself looking for the many good things that have happened, sometimes simply because they've happened.  At other times, because of the rather unconventional decisions I  have made along the way. 

Many of you have contributed so much to past outcomes that have been better than I ever dreamed.  I move forward, embracing life and the struggles of it, because I believe in the future.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Tue 04/08/2008 7:17 AM CDT
Mon 04/07/2008
The Role of Anxiety
Topic: Making Changes

Functional anxiety is wonderful.  Necessary, too, unless we plan to be turtles feeding on the grass around us.  Foster it.  Embrace it.  Feed it.

Dysfunctional anxiety makes us gripe and yell about things without addressing the root causes.  It lets off steam, but often alienates everyone around us.  It ignores the fact that some things can't change today or even in our lifetime. 

By contrast, functional anxiety finds a good plan for accomplishing what can be accomplished.  It does not move without some sense of a plan and purpose.  That purpose may be to bring about a calmness with ourselves.  Or it may be to make massive changes, one person at a time.  Seldom are massive changes made otherwise.  Especially with the participation of the institutional church, with it's tendency for loving the status quo. And especially with social issues.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Thu 04/03/2008 12:22 PM CDT
Sun 04/06/2008
A Failure to Evolve
Topic: Power

Rev. Michael Dowd, a UCC minister who is author of a new book "Thank God for Evolution," has much to say on the evolving that all of us do as individuals, as well as the evolving of civilizations, and the concept of cosmic evolution as it all relates to both science and religion.  It's a delightful text that is challenging my own development of critical thinking on several levels.

On p. 148 of the book, he talks about the problems of what he calls "sex scandals."  Some of what he is referring to could be called just that.  Other incidents would be more accurately termed professional sexual abuse.  He attributes the problems to the tendency of peopole in power to live in a regressed state that is fostered by the "Lizard Legacy."

"So long as religious and political leaders continue to ignore our evolutionary heritage, and thus do not put in place structures of internal and external support that can withstand the high dosages of testosterone that high status and power necessarily confer, then there will be no hope for a less calamitous future."

While the insight offered by this statement can be useful, I want to make it clear that we dare not boil the problems down to single explanations when problems are as complex as the ones that concern us.  Still, the "Lizard Legacy" could be used to spark some good conversation, especially with those who need a place to start a discussion.

It leaves me wondering:  What could we call the legacy that explains collusion?


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Fri 04/04/2008
A Tip for Wise Activists
Topic: Making Changes

While being aware of the strategies of fearful people, be careful about jumping at every opportunity you see.  You may soon burn out early or find yourself too exhausted or anxious to be effective. 

Be careful of those who label you uncaring because you choose your activities wisely.

Nobody can be all things to all people, even in a group of activisits working for the same causes.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Thu 04/03/2008
More Tactics
Topic: Making Changes

Further tactics to curtail any hope for progressive change are these:

1. Dull the senses of everyone, especially the thinking people.  Be sure to start with the young.  You'll want to dilute mental challenges so much that  the motivation and energy to engage in critical thinking is eroded.

2. Play on the emotion while you distort truths by focusing on irrelevant facts.

3. Punish and isolate independent thinkers of all ages at every opportunity.

 


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Tue 04/01/2008 9:00 PM CDT
Wed 04/02/2008
Strategy for Maintaining the Status Quo
Topic: Making Changes

 

If you feel the need to discourage anyone engaging in a call for radical social change, all you have to do is call them "immoral."   Be sure, if you live in the Western world, to add "undemocratic" and "unchristian."


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Tue 04/01/2008 8:59 PM CDT
Tue 04/01/2008
Delightful Revelations
Topic: spirituality

As I did community development and health education work with a slow-moving African government steeped in narcissism, I had no idea how much I was sharpening my pencil, getting ready to use what I'd learned intuitively in order to plant seeds of change into the hearts of women, and a few men,  on two fronts:

1. Change in the individual heart so that it is not dependent on any institution for it's own spiritual development (though sometimes good change certainly does happen within the institutional life)

2. Change in how leaders of the institutional church think and respond to issues of violence

In governments everywhere, change occurs when people start to think differently in our ever-changing world.  About a lot of things.  We are moved by trends.  Or we find ways to create new trends.  Always doing both, no matter how reluctant we may be to think for ourselves.

Change comes through unrest.  Change often is seen as a spiritual exercise, not just a social one.

If we are going to see change in the Middle East, I am convinced it won't come with military action.  The most effective way of producing it is to invest heavily (though modestly compared to our military spending) in airway capability, providing radios in every corner to every average citizen, so that we can comfort them and inspire them and let them know how many people even in their own small worlds are in hiding, feeling isolated and totally unaware of the power they have growing within themselves.  It is in the young people that we have the greatest hope of change, and the majority are NOT the suicide bombers, I'd venture to say. 

Whenever we exercise our power to speak of ideas that are not conventional, whether we are infiltrating the Middle East or infiltrating reformists in our own society or in the institutional church--no matter what the issue, but especially in issues involving gender oppression or the oppression of children--we give a gift and provide an opportunity.  We plant a seed, in other words.  A seed that may grow someday. 

That's how real change happens, and it's as important as any massive exercise of traditional power.  It defies all convention wisdom, as we see how blessed are the meek.  And how many mountains have been moved as new alliances are merged because of the faithful.  Sometimes seen as society's mavericks or wierdos.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Tue 04/01/2008 7:37 AM CDT
Sun 03/30/2008
The Joy of a Broken Heart
Topic: coping

Palmer challenges us to allow our hearts to be broken.   That's what I would call "embracing the journey," which is the theme of the retreat I'm leading May 2-4. 

Rather than shying away from circumstances that would break our hearts, we can welcome the opportunity to stand in the tragic gap, speaking or just waiting, allowing ourselves to do the deepest soul work, as we wait for the awakening of institutions--our families, as well as churches, schools, health care providers.  We need not fear having a broken heart, and our broken hearts need not be irreparably broken into a million pieces. 

We can turn our broken hearts into hearts that are more open to the world's hurts.  Like many of you, we can turn our sorrows into the greatest joys as we are willing to take in what we need to learn and experience. 

Many times in my own life, my heart has been broken.  Each time I allow this, rather than fight it, I find the greatest joy rising from what within me has died.  What a paradox!


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Sat 03/29/2008

For almost a decade, I have been in touch with the Beardslee's, former missionaries who served as diligent advocates as they coped with what they were learning of the stories of abuse, sustained by MK's (missionaries' children), even by their own children. How awesome to receive special news recently from Ann Beardslee:

Regarding the film: “All God’s Children”. It has been in the works for a long time. We are delighted that it has been accepted by the Sarasota Film Festival which is from April 4-10. “All God’s Children” will be shown both Saturday, April 5 and Sunday April 6. Howard and I will drive to Venice which is 30 to 45 minutes south of Sarasota on Friday and stay with our good friends, Steve. and Carol Pritchard.

We will all go to both of the screenings. I think that it will be difficult to see ourselves on “the big screen” telling our story of what it feels like to be parents of children who were abused at the Mission school when we were missionaries. It is difficult to listen to the stories of the missionary children (MKs) who are now adults. We believe that it is necessary to show this story to try to bring healing to the adult MKs and prevent further abuse of thousands of current MKs.The producers, Scott Solary and Luci Westphal hope that it will be screened later this year for other festivals and they will also arrive for screenings in various cities. You can check out the details at http://www.allgodschildrenthefilm.com 

                                                                  

                            


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Fri 03/28/2008 11:15 PM CDT
Fri 03/28/2008
Enriching Our Lives
Topic: Making Changes

I've often noticed that whenever I enlarge my world, I increase my understanding and enrich my life.  Yet almost always, I increase the stress in my life--at least initially, as I learn to absorb the new truths and relationships that challenge my old belief system, allowing me to see new possibilities, new problems, and a new sense of calling.  As I absorb the stresses and meet them, I am forced to allow some things within me to die so that more important things emerge, things more pertinent for the present.  Things that may not have even worked in the past. 

All of this works together to move me out of the shadows into the ever-changing light of day.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT

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