What are the emotions that fill terrorists to the point of acting violently? They are fear, anger, hatred, that all become irrational, leading to rage. Eventually this leads to irrational behavior because the fear, anger, and hatred become more and more irrational and escalate into a paranoia as the counterintelligence groups are filled with exactly the same emotions!
Survivors and advocates have these emotions, as well. We have a choice, just as those we consider to be the enemy have choices. We must choose whether we are going to destroy precious things in others or ourselves. This involves deciding what is truly precious and worthy of preservation. All the while knowing that our choices may not be the choices of others we love. Not the choices of old friends either.
As a young person, living through the 60's and 70's, I often was convicted that some of the old status quo thinking I'd been taught to treasure wasn't really a treasure. The internal conflicts had to do with racism and the status of women and children. I wasn't ready to always consider that my old religious beliefs needed to be challenged as I examined my thinking. Deciding that was a very slow and painful process, "helped along" by running into the brick wall of collusion with violence, as it played out in the faith community. What I chose to do back in my youth and how I choose to approach these matters today has been changed by my own life experience, my sense of security and ability to risk having a closer look. I'm very much still in process myself.
It's a formidable task, deciding how best to navigate the rough waters of such intense emotions. Especially when the emotions themselves sometimes seem to threaten our own well-being.
What an ethical dilemma! What a spiritual challenge! What a journey!