9. Am I to blame if I didn't stand up to the perpetrator immediately?

No! One does not expect to have to stand up to a person of greater power. All abusers, for one reason and often several, have power over their victims.
See Question No. 5 for more insights.

Dee Ann Miller is the author of Enlarging Boston's Spotlight: A Call for Courage, Integrity, and Institutional Transformation (2017) How Little We Knew: Collusion and Confusion with Sexual Misconduct (1993) and The Truth about Malarkey (2000)