Dee's Blog
Sat 03/29/2008

For almost a decade, I have been in touch with the Beardslee's, former missionaries who served as diligent advocates as they coped with what they were learning of the stories of abuse, sustained by MK's (missionaries' children), even by their own children. How awesome to receive special news recently from Ann Beardslee:

Regarding the film: “All God’s Children”. It has been in the works for a long time. We are delighted that it has been accepted by the Sarasota Film Festival which is from April 4-10. “All God’s Children” will be shown both Saturday, April 5 and Sunday April 6. Howard and I will drive to Venice which is 30 to 45 minutes south of Sarasota on Friday and stay with our good friends, Steve. and Carol Pritchard.

We will all go to both of the screenings. I think that it will be difficult to see ourselves on “the big screen” telling our story of what it feels like to be parents of children who were abused at the Mission school when we were missionaries. It is difficult to listen to the stories of the missionary children (MKs) who are now adults. We believe that it is necessary to show this story to try to bring healing to the adult MKs and prevent further abuse of thousands of current MKs.The producers, Scott Solary and Luci Westphal hope that it will be screened later this year for other festivals and they will also arrive for screenings in various cities. You can check out the details at 



Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Fri 03/28/2008 11:15 PM CDT
Fri 03/28/2008
Enriching Our Lives
Topic: Making Changes

I've often noticed that whenever I enlarge my world, I increase my understanding and enrich my life.  Yet almost always, I increase the stress in my life--at least initially, as I learn to absorb the new truths and relationships that challenge my old belief system, allowing me to see new possibilities, new problems, and a new sense of calling.  As I absorb the stresses and meet them, I am forced to allow some things within me to die so that more important things emerge, things more pertinent for the present.  Things that may not have even worked in the past. 

All of this works together to move me out of the shadows into the ever-changing light of day.

Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Thu 03/27/2008
The Secret of Collaboration
Topic: Making Changes

Parker Palmer says we learn to trust others when we have done our soul work.  That's what few people seem willing to do.  When we have done this very intense spiritual work, we strip ourselves of competitiveness and the paranoia that makes us see monsters in every corner of our world while being alert to what is really a threat to us, to our personal safety, and to our accomplishment of noble goals.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Thu 03/27/2008 7:35 AM CDT
Wed 03/26/2008
Dreaming the Impossible
Topic: Making Changes
Only as we dream of possibilities and impossibilities are we able to challenge ourselves and others.  In so doing we sometimes reach what we once thought was impossible, as well as a large percentage of what we see as possible.  Much more likely, at least, than if we had never dreamed. 

Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Updated: Wed 03/26/2008 10:34 PM CDT
Tue 03/25/2008
Being Reflective Rather than Reactive
Topic: Making Decisions

It is SO difficult for me to wait for a truth to be revealed, as I listen with empathy to the struggles of others.  I so much want to see things fixed, to see the student learn, to see the sick person find health and well-being, to help achieve a fast cure of an ill in society.  To see our institutions be something that the institution just can't possibly produce without a massive amount of work.  Because the problems that I see as so simple at times are really incredibly complex.

How I want to believe that my only speaking or writing the right words is going to produce something magical.  We are told that we can move mountains if we only have faith.  I really believe this is true--provided our faith is a mature faith, rather than one that sees a life and a theology that is constantly moving forward without regression. 

Our societies and out institutions, just as we as individuals, change very slowly at best.  Sometimes not at all.

So here we are again:  Praying for the wisdom to know the difference between what we can realistically change and what we cannot.  And being content to stand in the "tragic gap," even as we are in the process of sorting it out.


Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Mon 03/24/2008
Two Similar Errors
Topic: Making Changes

Parker Palmer declares that standing in the "tragic gap" requires that we hold the tension between what is and the new possibilities that our souls are opening to see.  Basically, it's accepting the things that we cannot change because of where we are.  Rather than making  the primitive choices of either fight or flight.

Oh, how difficult it is to stand in that state of waiting!  Acting and speaking in ways that hold the tension, without demanding a change that cannot be at this time. 



Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 9:29 PM CDT
Sun 03/23/2008
Going to Deeper to Rise Higher
Mood:  happy
Topic: Power

As you celebrate Easter, may you find transcendence that allows you to leave the mundane behind.  Even as you enlarge the list of what is truly mundane.  May you think of higher things in a way that only transcendence allows you to do. 

Happy Easter!

Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Fri 03/21/2008
Choosing to Embrace the Struggle
Topic: spirituality

The struggle that we choose to embrace is always an important one. It is embracing the struggle that is the most difficult part of the process.  We crucify ourselves when we choose not to do so. 

Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Thu 03/20/2008
Re-Framing the Storms of Life
Topic: spirituality

The grace of God often comes to me as I am able to see the problems I have NOT had. Through this, I can see the luxuries that are mine, even in the midst of the storms.

Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT
Wed 03/19/2008
The Promises
Topic: spirituality

What I believe about God's promises is that we have been taught a shallow version of the promises and a shallow version of God. We have been taught--as heretical as this may sound--to depend too much on the external and not enough on the god or God (however a survivor needs to write that, at a particular point in the journey). As opposed to finding the god or God within us that has been there since the day we were born. This is much deeper than the God we found at some point of conversion or transformation. The institutional church has made the same mistake, so that "just leave it in the hands of the Lord" becomes the watchword as we expect God to come down and zap things into being okay.

Posted by Dee Ann Miller at 12:01 AM CDT

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