As long as shame and blame permeate our culture, we find fear. Courage is based on love, which cannot blossom in a culture of shame and blame. Remember that perfect love casts out fear?
It takes courage, though. Courage to quit blaming people, as if blame cures anything! Blame, as I see it, is just shame turned outward onto others. When victims get blamed, people are really acting out of shame.
Shame, not guilt. Remember that healthy guilt turns things around!