Topic: Making Changes
When we make changes, not everyone is happy with all of our changes. Some people want us to consult them more often than we may think necessary as we make change. As if their approval is essential for us to change.
In an enmeshed family, people aren't allowed to grow without there being an uproar. Sometimes change is allowed, though, as long as it's not for the better--that's what is so interesting about enmeshed families that are filled with addictions. The addicts can just get sicker and more self-absorbed, and that seems to be fine with people who are "tolerant."
Same goes for enmeshed institutions.
Individuation and separation allow me to decide how much time I want to spend with people who have not taken inventory for a long, long time. The older I get, the less inclined I am to make choices that put me in close proximity, for very long, with either the individuals or institutions that do not appreciate change.
Only problem is that life can be a little lonely sometimes, but never for long. All I have to do is change the way I'm reaching out or relating to a variety of people that I already know, as well as to those I want to know better. Or maybe to meet in the future.
