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Lord, how long shall the wicked triumph?....

How long shall they utter and speak harsh things?....
They break into pieces thy people....
Yet they say: "The Lord shall not see!"
(Psalm 94:3-7)


Find much more on Coping at Dee's Blog

There are very few "must's" in survivorship, so I use the word sparingly. Yet there are two essential ones: Initially, a person MUST focus on mere survival. In time, recovering people MUST move out of the near-sightedness that trauma causes in order to rebuild a new life.

My husband Ron often, in speaking of his own suffering as a result of working for change in religious systems, says: "Thank God for the trouble I have NOT had."

Having seen many people suffering from various losses and problems as immense as war, severe malnutrition, or having to walk for miles to find a drop of water, we have tried to focus beyond ourselves, encouraging others to do that over time, in order to put things in perspective. Whenever I do, I soon find myself counting blessings, rather than obsessing over the multiple agonies I've personally encountered, as well as the ones I've witnessed. Yet I must also focus on those agonies and revisit them from time to time if I am to keep a sane balance.

Below are some articles I've written that may assist you to develop new ways of thinking. For new thinking can lead to new ways of coping. This eventually results in less self-absorption and fewer unrealistic expectations.

Of course, we have to be cautious about what we incorporate. Some new thinking can contribute to a reversal of our coping abilities so that it results in regression or staying stuck. Heaven forbid!

  NEW! Hear Dee's voice in a podcast sharing about the following topics:
Misconceptions About Healing

Music and Healing

What if Nothing Happens?

Winning the Battle

John Bradshaw's Words on Secrecy

You will find related insights at:

Spiritual Journey
Making Decisions

Dee’s books and “Just for the Brave” are also filled with insights on coping.